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And, like many women of my generation, I had, until recently, begun to see men through a very different set of goggles: ‘baby goggles’.
Today, I am 40, single and childless — but still hoping to become a mother.
It’s down to me to fill the baby gap with a life I love.
Like many females in my shoes, I love my freedom and would happily go another five years without hearing the patter of tiny feet.I remember casually trying to manoeuvre a friend’s new-born baby into the arms of one boyfriend, hoping he’d melt with broodiness. Not all women want to be mothers, and many men are keen to become fathers.Alan Lowne, 38, a health and fitness expert from North-West London, is one such man.‘Leave the emotional baggage out of it for the first couple of dates,’ he says. People have very sensitive radars when it comes to the motives of those close to them.‘If you talk about children early on, there’s a chance you’ll scare him off.’Psychotherapist Phillip Hodson, who specialises in family, love and sex, advises caution: ‘The first thing you should be asking yourself is not “is he good father material? We women often think we are cleverly hiding our true intentions, but men can see through us.